The Woman Behind the Movement

The Crisis Moment

I was Founder of a national Christian sorority. A sought-after speaker. Building a successful coaching business. Wife. Mother to two incredible sons. From the outside, I was the picture of a woman who "had it all."

But late one night, after another full day of serving everyone else's vision, I sat down to write. And the question that came out wasn't about purpose or passion or profit.

It was: Do I even matter?

Not "do people need me" - I knew they did. Not "am I successful" - the resume proved that. The question was deeper, more terrifying: If I died tomorrow, would anyone remember me - or just the version of me they needed?

That question wouldn't let me go. Because I knew the answer.

I had built a life that looked significant. But I was performing someone else's version of significance. Living out the titles. Fulfilling the roles. Meeting everyone's expectations of who I should be.

And inside? I was disappearing.

The truth is, I'd been so busy becoming what everyone needed me to be that I'd lost the woman God actually created. I was significant to my organizations, my clients, my community. But I didn't know who I was when nobody was watching.

The Beginning: The Original Message

Years before that crisis moment, God had given me a message. In 2015, I published "The Significance Factor: 5 Steps to Creating a Legendary Life & Death." It was a book about mattering - about creating a legacy that would outlive you, about being more than just another obituary in someone's photo album.

The message was powerful. It resonated. People's lives changed.

But what I didn't fully understand then was that I was writing TO myself. I was teaching significance while performing my way through life. I was helping others discover their purpose while losing touch with my own authentic BEing.

God was planting seeds. Seeds that would take years to fully bloom.

The Interruption

When God invited me to partner with Him in business - not just do business FOR Him, but WITH Him - everything I thought I knew got interrupted.

I had been trained by the best. I had learned from the experts and gurus. I had the formulas, the blueprints, the strategies. I was earnestly pursuing success by the world's standards.

But God asked me a question I couldn't ignore: "Does your definition of success match Mine?"

That question changed everything.

Like Saul on the Damascus Road, I had to face the reality that I'd been building in my own strength. I'd been performing someone else's version of success. I'd been becoming who the marketplace said I should be instead of BEing who God created me to BE.

And so began my Un-Becoming.

The Awakening: From Significance to Un-Becoming

What I came to understand - what essentially became the lived "doctoral thesis" that shaped my entire body of work - was this:

The "Significance Factor" was the original message. God was showing me that humans matter, that legacy matters, that purpose matters. But I had been pursuing significance through the wrong door - through becoming, through performance, through proving.

True significance doesn't come from addition. It comes from subtraction.

It comes from peeling back every layer of who you've had to become until you remember who you were before the world told you who you should become. That's the work of Un-Becoming.

And it became my life's work - not because I mastered it in one season, but because I'm living it every single day.

The Ongoing Work: This Isn't "One and Done"

Here's what I need you to know: Un-Becoming isn't a destination. It's a lifestyle.

Even now - years into this journey - new layers emerge. I catch myself slipping back into performance mode. I notice when I'm leading from proving instead of BEing. I recognize when I'm more concerned about what looks good than what is authentically me.

And that's when I make the choice again.

The choice to surrender. The choice to consecrate. The choice to say "yes" to who I BE instead of defaulting to others' expectations.

This is why I can walk with you through your Un-Becoming. Not because I've "arrived," but because I'm on the journey with you. I know what it feels like to be trapped in a golden cage. I know what it costs to take the masks off. I know the fear of losing everything you've built when you admit the truth underneath.

And I also know what's on the other side: Freedom. Authenticity. Power. Presence. A life and legacy that actually matters because it's YOURS.

The Movement: Living B.I.G.

Today, I'm the founder of the Un-Becoming Movement where I guide high achieving executives and entrepreneurs to take off the masks of others' expectations that are suffocating them and snuffing out their authenticity.

I'm also the visionary founder of Kappa Tau Theta (KT Θ) Kingdom Sorority and am chief steward of Say the L Enterprises Unlimited, my coaching and consulting company.

And most importantly, I'm still a wife to my wonderful husband James, and mother to our two amazing and handsome sons, Gabriel and Michael.

We live outside of Birmingham, Alabama - where I continue to make the daily decision to BE instead of become.

My Heart for You

If you're reading this, something in you resonates with my story. You see yourself in the golden cage. You recognize the performance. You feel the internal fracture between who you are and who you've been trained to become.

And you're finally ready to do something about it.

That's why the Un-Becoming Movement exists. Not to give you another formula to follow, but to walk with you as you remember who you were always meant to BE.

This work is sacred. It's transformational. And it requires someone who's been where you are - someone who understands that external success and internal authenticity aren't the same thing.

I'm that someone.

And if you're problem-aware, solution-seeking, and ready to do the work of Un-Becoming, I want to walk with you.

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